so there are people who don't believe in pulling any punches. now my deal with that is that it's ok to be truthful but do it to a limit. especially if you know you're overly critical. cause that's going to end up hurting someone. and is that what you really want? to hurt someone. to hold on to what you really want to say that's also helping. unless it's something you really can't help. the idea about oh it's really not me if i don't say something that comes to me first that's not always best. because more often than not something mean will come to your mind. it's in us. to me it reflects strength if you can stay quiet where it's obvious you could have said something that was the truth but also mean. still so weak. still in the making. help